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加百利-健康的界線

2022年4月19日

Your boundaries can be malleable without making you weak, inconsistent, or vulnerable if you are making them in a per case basis with the criteria that your connection point is a place that is safe and empowering for everyone involved.
你的界線可以改變成不讓你變得軟弱、不一致或脆弱，如果你是按照具體情況制訂的它們，伴隨著“你的連接點是一個安全的地方、會授權每個涉及之人”的標準。

There may be some people in your life who are not safe for you to be in close proximity with. Those people will need to be kept at a distance. In fact, in those cases, you may choose to have a boundary of no contact at all. This is perfectly appropriate if their behaviour is abusive or causes you distress. It is never empowering to support another in showing up in a lesser version of themselves, either, so no contact can be the highest choice for everyone involved.
也許你生活中的一些人不夠安全讓你去靠近。那些人需要保持距離。事實上，在這樣的情況中，你可以選擇根本不去接觸的界線。這是完全恰當的，如果他們的行為是虐待性的或導致你痛苦。支持另一個人展現較低版本的自我從未是授權的，所以不接觸可以是對每個涉及之人最高的選擇。

There are other souls who are so safe and supportive for you they deserve VIP access. These are the people who you can completely and open-heartedly be yourself with, who you enjoy a beautiful flow of love and support with. The relationship is mutually trustworthy, beneficial, and uplifting. These people are your soul companions, who bring you joy, and add to your life just as you add to theirs.
還有著別的靈魂是安全的，支持你的，他們值得VIP訪問。這些人你可以完全敞開心相處，你會與之享受一個美麗的愛與支持的流動。你們的關係是值得信賴的、有益的、提升的。這些人是你的靈魂同伴，會帶給你喜悅，會給你的生活添加風采。

Based on the two examples we have given, can you see how attempting to have a preset one size fits all middle ground boundary system would not serve you in either instance? In the first case it would leave you vulnerable, in the second it would make you miss out on the joy of deep and respectful connection.
根據上面兩個例子，你能看到試圖設置一個“一刀切”的界線在兩個情況中都不服務你嗎？在第一個情況，會讓你變得脆弱，在第二個情況，會讓你錯過深度互相尊重的連接喜悅。

You are ready. You are ready to use your wisdom to find the connection points with others that allow you to meet people where they are and sets the stage for the most satisfying interactions that serve everyone involved. And that, Dear Ones, is exactly what boundaries are designed to do. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
你已經準備好了。你已經準備好使用你的智慧找到與他人的連接點，讓你在另一個人的所在之地遇見他，為最令人滿意的交互設置舞台，會服務每個涉及的人。這，親愛的，就是界線被設計來做的。

大天使加百利

2022年4月20日

As we continue our series on boundaries this week, we would like to offer you an analogy that should make it very easy to understand the varying connection points of boundaries.
隨著我們繼續本週的界線系列，我們想要提供你一個類比來讓你更好地理解各種界線點。

Imagine, if you will, attending a dance. If your beloved is there and a slow song comes on, you will lovingly take to the middle of the dance floor to sway together in a close and intimate embrace. You may also share the dance floor with others in faster, less intimate dances that still allow you to share an enjoyable experience with another while maintaining more distance between you. And there may be others who you decide you don’t wish to dance with at all.
想像，你參加一個舞會。如果你心愛的人在那，一首慢歌響起，你會很樂意和他/她一起來到舞池中央在親密的擁抱中搖擺。你也會在輕快的、不那麼親密的舞步中與他人分享舞池，這依舊會讓你與另一個人擁有一個令人愉悅的體驗，同時保持你們之間的距離。還有一些人你也許並不希望與之共舞。

You automatically respond with whatever is an appropriate level of closeness with your dance partners. But regardless of how close or separate you choose to be with others during the dance, you still care about the well-being of every person who is attending the dance, whether you danced with them or not. You weighed all your options and wisely made your choices based on your comfort and desires while honouring the right of every single soul to be in the dance hall.
你做出與你舞伴恰當親密程度的回應。但不管在跳舞期間你選擇與另一個人保持多親密或多少距離，你依舊關心每個參加舞會之人的福祉，無論你與他們共舞與否。你權衡你所有的選項，明智地做出你的選擇，基於你的舒適和渴望，同時榮耀每個處於舞池中的靈魂的權力。

Do you see? Having boundaries while being part of the whole is a skill you already have. At a dance you make your choices based on how you feel and how much closeness is appropriate in a per case basis, and you can use that template in your day to day life, as well. You get to choose whose name you put on your dance card and what kind of dance you would like to do with them. It does not need to be any more complicated than that. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
你明白了嗎？擁有界線，同時成為整體的一部分是一個你已經擁有的能力。在一場舞會，你基於你的感受以及多親密是恰當的來做出你的選擇，你也可以在日常生活中使用這個模版。你可以選擇邀請誰共舞，你喜歡的舞蹈類型。不需要比這更複雜。

大天使加百利

2022年4月21日

We realize that adjusting boundaries can seem daunting, especially if they’ve been in an unhealthy pattern for a long time. But healthy boundaries are essential for helping you, and everyone around you, meet their highest potentials. That is exactly why they are coming up for reexamination for so many of you.
我們意識到調整界線可以看似令人怯步，尤其當他們處於一個不健康的模式很久了。但健康的界線會幫助你和你周圍的人遇見自己最高的潛能。所以它們在浮現被重新審視。

We wish for you to know that shifting your boundaries isn’t mean when you are doing it from a conscious place, although people may accuse you of being mean or unfair as you do so. That is simply because they may be fearing change, or because they are invested in things staying the same. Shifting boundaries isn’t about punishment, it is about seeking an overall balance that is fair.
我們希望你明白，轉變你的界線並不意味著當你從有意識的境地去做，別人可能會指責你刻薄或不公。這只是因為他們可能害怕改變或因為他們想要事物保持不變。轉變界線不是關於懲罰，而是關於尋求一個整體的平衡。

Most people who resist healthy boundaries are trying to avoid stepping into their own authentic power in some way. This is detrimental as that is exactly what you are on the planet to do! You may have noticed that when you have unhealthy boundaries with another there is a lot of blaming each other involved. When you are consumed with what another is doing, you are not putting your focus on your own growth and evolution.
大多數抗拒健康界線的人在試圖避免進入自己真實的力量。這是有害的，因為那是你來到地球要做的！你可能注意到了，當你擁有不健康的界線，會有很多對彼此的指責。當你被另一個人的所作所為折磨，你沒有把你的專注放到自己的成長和進化上。

In some cases, you may need to make a big shift in your relationship to stop old patterning. If you have been in a dance of unhealthy boundaries with another for a long time, you may fear this will end your relationship but the reality is your relationship, if it is wildly out of balance, is doomed to fail. Moving into healthier boundaries is exactly what will give your relationship a chance.
在一些情況中，你可能需要在人際關係中做出巨大的改變來停止舊的模式。如果你處於不健康的界線很久，你可能會擔心這會完結你的人際關係，但事實上是如果你的人際關係失控地失衡，它注定會失敗。進入更加健康的界線才會給予你的人際關係一線生機。

In other cases, you may slowly start shifting things in a way that won’t feel as drastic to others. This can start by you simply feeling into your truth before you answer or act. Ask yourself, is this fair and empowering for everyone involved? You can start saying no to others (or yes to yourself!), or start delegating activities to others that they can easily do for themselves, slowly but surely, to start to enact more gradual change. This requires commitment on your part to stay consciously aware and not fall back into old patterns.
在其它情況中，你可能慢慢地開始在對另一個人來說沒那麼劇烈的方式中改變事物。這可以從在你回答或行為之前感受你的真理開始。問自己，這對每個涉及的人來說公平和授權嗎？你可以開始對別人說不或對自己說是，或者開始授權他們能夠輕易做到的活動，去開始發生更多漸進的改變。這需要奉獻去保持有意識，不落回舊的模式。

Again we remind you that boundaries are there to support fair, empowering connection for everyone involved. That is always a good thing, and your inner wise one always knows where that point is. You may need to be very firm in extreme cases, or you may gently shift things slowly, but no matter how you get there, rest assured your boundaries exist for the highest good of all, because they allow you to use your energy much more consciously and to finally move out of old cycles and patterns into true forward movement. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
我們再次提醒你，界線是來支持公平、授權的連接的。這總是一件好事，你的內在智者總是知道那個點在哪。你可能需要在極端的情況中變得很堅定，或者你可以慢慢地溫柔地轉變事物，但不管你如何到達，放心，你的界線是為了一切的最高良善而存在，因為它們讓你更加有意識地使用你的能量，最終離開舊週期和模式，進入真正的前進運動。

大天使加百利

2022年4月22日

As we close out this week’s series of messages on boundaries, we would like to discuss how to know someone has changed enough to let them back into closer proximity to you.
隨著我們結束本週的界線系列，我們想要探討如何知道別人改變得足夠多來讓他們返回與你的親密。

You may have had to create a firm boundary with someone if their behaviour was inappropriate and unacceptable and wasn’t changing despite your making your feelings known. If you have been in an unhealthy dance with another for a long time, suddenly becoming firm and deciding you no longer wish to continue with them can seem like a rude awakening. It can feel like shocking someone awake with a bucket of cold water when they have been in a deep sleep.
如果對方的行為是不恰當的，不可接受的，並未改變，儘管你表達了你的感受，你可能需要創造一個堅定的界線。如果你處於一個不健康的共舞很久，突然變得堅定並感覺到你不再希望與那個人共舞會看似是一個唐突的甦醒。會感覺起來像是用一桶冷水把熟睡的人澆醒。

Any forced, unexpected change can throw another into what is often referred to as the dark night of the soul. Deep change often follows similar steps to the stages of mourning. And they are, in a sense, grieving the loss of the old way of being, even if that way of being was not for their highest good. Most people, when faced with this, go through the following stages:
任何強迫的、意想不到的改變會讓另一個人進入通常被稱為的靈魂暗夜。深刻的改變通常會緊隨類似哀悼的階段。在某種意義上，他們就是在哀悼舊的存在方式，即使那個存在方式對他們最高的良善來說沒用。大多數人，當面對這些，會經歷以下階段：

Stage One: Shock/denial
第一階段：震驚/否認

Stage Two: Emotional reaction
第二階段：情緒反應

Stage Three: Trying to keep things the same without change
第三階段：試圖保持事物不變

Stage Four: Emotional bottom
第四階段：情緒觸底

Stage Five: Opening to change
第五階段：向改變敞開

Stage Six: Temptation to backslide
第六階段：被引誘去倒退

Stage Seven: True change
第七階段：真正的改變

It is common for people who are attempting to enforce better boundaries to falter when the person in question is in any of the earlier stages, but as you can see giving in too soon would not create any kind of lasting change. It would only be agreeing to continue the same old patterning.
當處於考慮中的人處於任何前面的階段，很正常會讓他在建立更好的界線中動搖，但如你所見，太早放棄無法創造任何持久的改變。只會同意繼續相同的舊模式。

People do change all the time, in fact, that is exactly what the energies you are in are insisting upon. There will absolutely be times when people change for the better and become a safe person to have near to you again. But true and lasting change is a process that requires self awareness, introspection, and true and consistent action steps that reflect their authentic desire to be different.
人時刻都在改變，事實上，這就是你所處的能量在堅稱的。肯定會到來人們變得更好，成為一個安全的人可以再次靠近的時間。但真正持久的改變是一個需要自我意識、自省、始終如一的過程，會反映出他們想要變得不一樣的真實渴望。

It is a wise human being who doesn’t rush back in but allows the other the time and space they need to evolve out of the old patterning. If the person is willing to do the work of changing, and if you are willing to give them the space they need to do that work, as well as exploring and healing what made you a willing dance partner in the old patterning, there can absolutely be an opportunity to come back together in a new, far more healthy and mutually beneficial way. ~Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
不著急回去，而是給予另一個人時間和空間去進化出舊的模式是明智的。如果那個人願意去做改變工作，如果你願意給予他們空間去做那個工作，以及探索和療癒，就完全有機會去在新的更加健康和互利的方式中再相聚。

大天使加百利

文章來源：https://trinityesoterics.com/.../daily-message-tuesday.../

翻譯：NickChan