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ParamahansaYogananda-成長成巨人

How do you find the right partner?
如何找到合適的伴侶？

Beloved human being,
親愛的，

first prepare for this encounter on a spiritual level. Attract the woman of your life or the man of your dreams through spiritual groundwork.
首先在精神層面為這個遇見做好準備。通過精神上的基礎工作來吸引你的摯愛。

What does this preliminary work consist of? First become mature yourself for a partnership – and to be mature means to free yourself from any jealousy. Jealousy is the greatest hindrance to a marriage or partnership. Work on this issue until you can be sure that it will not play a role in your partnership.
這個初步工作包含什麼？首先自己要變得成熟---這意味著自由於任何的嫉妒。嫉妒是一段婚姻或關係的最大障礙。致力於它直到你可以確定它不會在你的關係中搗蛋。

Thereupon ask your spiritual guidance for indications whether a life partner is granted to you in this life. Not every person has chosen a partnership. Sometimes you prefer to lead a life as a hermit than to get involved with a person in everyday life. This is what you need to find out first.
因此請求精神上的指引來向你展示這輩子是否會有一個伴侶。不是每個人都選擇了一段關係。有時候你寧願作為隱士生活而不是和另一個人一起生活。這是你需要先去弄明白的。

It is also quite possible that the right time for a partnership has not yet come. This is another very common fact. With all the efforts you make, always clarify first what is right for you now.
還有就是伴侶到來的正確時機還未到來。這是另一個非常普遍的事實。伴隨著你所有的努力，總是先去弄清楚現在什麼對你來說是恰當的。

Then feel into yourself, declare yourself to heaven and signal your readiness! Let everything come to you, do not force anything, let it happen!
然後感受內心，向天堂宣告，說你準備好了！讓一切向你前來，不要強迫任何東西。

Only if you can live alone with yourself, you can enter into a partnership. If you don’t get along with yourself, then you don’t get along with anybody.
只有當你能夠獨自過活，你就可以進入一段關係。如果你自己都無法與自己相處，你也無法與任何人相處。

A partnership serves the people to work on the project life in loving togetherness.
一段關係服務人類在有愛的歸屬感中致力於生活項目。

Do not rush!
不用匆忙!

A true partnership is based on appointments from being and these appointments have to be recognized. So do not rush!
一段真正的關係基於約定，這些約定必須被認識到。所以不用匆忙!

Ask yourself at this point: Can I be alone with myself or do I always need people around me?
在這個點，問問自己：我能夠獨自生活嗎？還是我總是需要周圍有人？
 

If you are ready for the partnership, then connect yourself mentally with the partner. Invite him into your life! When the time has come, the encounter will take place. Therefore, be patient and do not compromise! Never distract yourself with other partners, but wait!
如果你為關係做好了準備，然後精神上與伴侶連接。邀請他/她進入你的生活！當時機到來，遇見會發生。因此，保持耐心，不要勉強！不要為此分心!

If the right person enters your life, then you recognize him or her by the agreed characteristics!
如果正確的人進入了你的生活，你會通過認同他/她的特性而認出他/她!

It is impossible to prevent an encounter that should take place and for which a person is ready. It happens!
不可能去阻止一個應當發的遭遇，當一個人準備好，它會發生!

Life with your life partner is one big party, when both people are clarified to such an extent that issues such as selfishness, envy and jealousy no longer affect them. Forgiveness also plays a decisive role in a partnership. It is the supreme discipline for the success of a marriage. If a spiritual dimension is added, life is perfect.
與你的伴侶一起生活是一個盛大的聚會，當兩人的明理程度到達了自私、嫉妒這樣的東西不再能影響他們的點。寬恕也在關係中扮演著一個決定性的角色。這是一段成功婚姻的最高紀律。如果一個精神維度被添加，生活是完美的。

Sex and everyday life
性和日常生活
 

In this way, sexuality also takes on a different significance. Sex is then not limited to the regions of the body, but it is a holistic event of spirit, soul and body. This is the unity that spiritually connected people can experience in every sexual encounter.
在這樣的方式中，性也會擁有不同的意義。它不再局限於身體層面，而是精神、靈魂、身體的一個整體事件。這是精神上相連的人能夠在每一個有性相遇中體驗到的聯合。

Even everyday life has a completely different quality. Happiness brings deep confidence – confidence in being different and in being like your partner.
即使日常生活也會有一個完全不同的品質。幸福會帶來深度的信心---對變得不同和變得像伴侶一樣擁有信心。

No one who is confident wants to change another. Any partnership in which one wants to change the other fails. With spiritually developed people this is no longer an issue – everyone takes the other as he is!
自信的人都不會想要改變另一個人。當一個人想要改變另一個人，任何關係都會失敗。伴隨著精神上成熟的人，這不再是一個問題---每個人接納彼此的所是!

There is no need for interference in your partner’s life. Therefore, never marry with the intention that you can mold your partner to your liking. This always goes wrong and plunges everyone into unhappiness!
不需要去干涉對方的生活。因此，永遠不要伴隨著按照你的喜好塑造你的伴侶這樣的意圖去步入婚姻。這總是會出問題，讓每個人都不快樂!

Why get upset – change yourself!
為什麼難過---改變自己!

Mature souls enjoy being different from their partner, because this is the only way they can learn and grow themselves. Mature souls use the reflections of everyday life for their own development and they do not perceive them as a threat to their own ego. Thus, understanding and trust prevail instead of discord or strife.
成熟的靈魂喜歡和自己的伴侶是不一樣的，因為這是他們學習和成長的唯一方式。成熟的靈魂使用日常生活來反思自己的發展，他們不會認為那些反思是對自己小我的一個威脅。因此，理解和信任會主導，而不是不和或吵架。

Now love can occupy the space between man and woman. The ego recedes and the souls can meet each other.
現在愛可以佔據男人和女人之間的空間。小我消退，靈魂可以遇見彼此。

How children become giants
孩子如何成為巨人

Now children are an issue. You feel that you want to invite a soul into your life. How do you go about it?
現在孩子是一個問題。你感到你想要邀請一個靈魂進入你的生活。你如何去做？

Attract the souls! Invite souls that belong to you and fit you into your life! Make contact with the soul that wants to embody itself in you! Feel the being which should be your future child
吸引、邀請從屬於你、適合你的靈魂進入你的生活！與想要在你之內體現自己的靈魂連接！感到它會是你未來的孩子。

Have conversations and observe your dreams! Children choose their parents in the same way as parents choose their children – and children make themselves known to their future parents on the soul level before they are born. The most blessed foundation for the family is:
交談並觀察你的夢想！孩子會和父母選擇自己的孩子一樣選擇自己的父母---孩子會在靈魂層面在自己誕生前先會見未來的父母。一個家庭最幸福的基礎就是：

Open your souls and exude the fragrance of love like a flower – until honeybees settle on it.
像花朵一樣敞開你的靈魂並散發愛的芬芳---直到蜜蜂到來。

Your family will flourish and the children will grow into the giants they indicate they are from birth.
你的家庭會綻放，孩子會成長成巨人。

I love you infinitely.
我無限地愛著你。

PARAMAHANSA YOGANANDA

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